Specularity at the cellular level

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Specularity at the cellular level

American heart surgeon, Dr. Mehmet Oz, conducted exceptionally interesting studies related to heart transplantation. He found that, like other organs, the heart has a cellular memory, and this allows patients to experience emotions experienced by donors. Even more surprisingly, patients with a transplanted heart began to copy gestures and the posture of donors, despite the fact that they had never seen them. Dr. Oz came to the conclusion that the cells of the heart transmit to the patient's brain signals of the body language of the donor. People suffering from diseases such as autism, can not copy the behavior of other people, which greatly complicates their communication with others. The same happens with drunks: their gestures are not synchronized with words, which makes them difficult to copy.
The law of cause and effect says: if you consciously make some gestures, you will feel emotions associated with these gestures. For example, if you feel confident, then unconsciously put your palms in the "spire". If you deliberately make such a gesture, then not only will you feel more confident, but others will begin to perceive you that way. Consciously copying the interlocutor's body language will allow you to effectively reach an understanding with him.

Women and men mirroring manifests itself in different ways

Jeffrey Beatty of the University of Manchester found that women copy each other's actions four times more often than men. He also found that women copy and male behavior, but men can not copy women - except in the process of courtship.
When a woman says that she “sees”, that someone does not agree with the group’s point of view, she really sees signs of disagreement. She feels that the signals of the body language of a certain person are knocked out of synchronicity. A person expresses his disagreement by refusing to copy group behavior. Men are struck by the ability of women to “immediately see” disagreement, anger, lies or offense. This is explained by the fact that the male brain is simply not adapted to the recognition of small signals of the body language, and therefore does not recognize signs of specularity.
As we said in the book Language of Relationships, the male and female brains are differently set to express emotions through facial expressions and body movements. An ordinary woman for ten seconds while she listens to the interlocutor, six times changes the facial expression. And she does this in order to reflect the speaker's emotions. A woman's face reflects the emotions experienced by her interlocutor. It may seem to the observer that the events in question were happening with both women.
Women are well able to read between the lines, understanding everything by the tone of the voice and the emotional state of the interlocutor, manifested through non-verbal signals. If a man wants to attract the attention of a woman and make her listen to himself, he should behave the same way. Most men are horrified at the thought of such feedback during a conversation, but if you do it skillfully, you will be rewarded a hundredfold.
Some men believe that this behavior will make them feminine, but studies show that women find people who are interlocutors who copy their behavior caring, attentive, intelligent, interesting and attractive.
However, men are able to copy less than a third of a woman’s facial expressions. Being in public, men prefer to seem impassive and hide their emotions, so as not to become a victim of an unexpected attack. To this they are tuned throughout the course of evolutionary development. That is why most men listen to the interlocutor, frozen like a monument.
The mask of impassivity that men wear during a conversation allows them to feel control over the situation. However, this does not mean that men do not have any emotions. Brain research has shown that men experience emotions with the same force as women, but prefer not to show their feelings in public.

What if you are a woman?

In order to effectively copy the behavior of a man, you need to realize that he almost never uses his face to express emotions and attitudes. He does this with the help of the body. For most women it is very difficult to copy the impassive face of a man, but this is not required. If you are a woman, you only need to reduce the number of expressions of your own face, so as not to suppress and frighten your interlocutor. The most important thing is not to copy your own ideas about the feelings of a man. If you make a mistake, he will consider you abnormal, and this one will be a real disaster. When a business woman listens to a person with a serious face, men perceive her as intelligent, insightful and sensitive.

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