How to stop the power game

Lecture



Pushing palm down resembles a Nazi salute. This is the most aggressive type of handshake, since the interlocutor has almost no chance to establish equality. Such a handshake is typical for power, aspiring to the dominance of people who always initiate a handshake and place their hand palm down, forcing the interlocutor to take a subordinate position.
  How to stop the power game
Push palm down

If you feel that a person shakes your hand in this way, you have several options.

1. RECEPTION “STEP TO RIGHT”
If you are forced to take a subordinate position in the process of a handshake (and many men do just that), it is quite difficult to transfer the interlocutor's hand to an equal position. In addition, such actions are too obvious.
We advise you to first step forward with your left foot, approaching the other person. To do this, you need to practice a little, since most people start to move with the right foot while shaking their right hand.
Then take a step forward with your right foot, thereby invading the interlocutor’s personal space. Finally, at the end of the maneuver, place your left foot on the right (see figure) and shake the other person’s hand. This technique will allow you to straighten a handshake or even transfer a partner’s hand to a subordinate position. Invading the interlocutor’s personal space, you can take control of the situation.
  How to stop the power game
Step forward with your right foot and rotate the other person’s hand, palm up

Analyze your own handshake. Find out what foot you take a step, stretching the hand to the other person. Most people walk with their right foot, while losing their advantage with the dominant handshake, because they have nowhere to move and this allows the other person to take control of the situation. Practice walking with your left foot, and it will immediately become easy for you to cope with those who try to establish control over you with the help of a handshake.

2. RECEPTION "PICK UP"
If the other person is trying to place your hand palm-up, do not resist, but then cover his right hand with your left. Thus, it turns out that you shake his hand with both hands at once. In this position, it will be easy for you to transfer the hand of your interlocutor to an equal handshake.
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Handshake with two hands

This technique will allow you to take control of the situation and simplify further communication. In addition, a two-handed handshake is very convenient for women. If you feel that the interlocutor intentionally seeks to intimidate you and does this all the time, take his hand from above and then squeeze it (see figure). This can literally strike down your interlocutor, so we do not recommend resorting to this technique often. Consider it as a kind of "ambulance", the last exit.
  How to stop the power game
Last exit
created: 2014-09-28
updated: 2021-03-13
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Body language

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