Breakup (parting)

Breakup of relationships , often referred to as simply parting , is the termination of intimate relationships (English) Russian. in any sense other than death. In colloquial speech, such an action, when it is initiated by one of the partners, can be represented by the verb “quit [someone]” [1]. The term is less applicable to the couple, where the separation is usually called separation of residence (English) Russian. or divorce. When an engaged couple breaks up, then, as a rule, this is called “break up the engagement”.

Suzy Orbach (eng.) Russian. (1992) argued that the breakdown of courtship and cohabitation relationships can be just as painful (or even more painful) than a divorce, because these extramarital relationships are less recognized by society [2].

Models

Several psychological models have been proposed to explain the process of breaking up relationships, and many assume that “the breakdown of relationships occurs in stages” [3].

Stages leading to rupture

L. Lee [4] offers five stages, leading ultimately to parting.

1. Dissatisfaction - one or both partners have a growing discontent with the relationship
2. Exposure - both partners become mutually aware of the problems in the relationship
3. Negotiations - both partners try to reconcile problem solving
4. Resolution and transformation - both partners apply the result of their negotiations
5. Termination - failure to correct problems on the proposed resolution and the failure or failure to apply further solutions

Break cycle

Steve Duck outlines a six-step relationship break cycle [5], including

1. Dissatisfaction in a relationship
2. Social self-isolation
3. Discussion of the causes of discontent
4. Public publicity
5. Tidy memories
6. Recovery of a sense of social worth

Factors predicting a gap before marriage

Rubin Hill (Hill, Rubin) and Letit Peplau (Peplau Letita) [6] identified 5 factors that predict decay before marriage:

1. Unequal participation in relationships
2. Age difference
3. Educational aspirations
4. IQ
5. Physical attractiveness

Uncoupling theory

In 1976, sociologist Diane Vaughan (Diane Vaughan) proposed a “uncoupling theory”, in which there is a “turning point” in the dynamics of a relationship break - a certain moment when they “knew that the relationship was over”, when “everything died inside “- following the transition period, in which one of the partners subconsciously feels that the relationship is coming to an end, but keeps them for a long period, even for many years [7].

Phases of grief

Susan J. Elliott [8], a psychotherapist who helps to cope with the loss of a loved one (grief counselor) and a parting expert, writes that grief emotions after parting are essentially the same as in any other painful process. Her study reflected the fact that Raphael Beverley (Beverley Raphael) [9] compared the process of grief as a “phase” rather than a “stage”. Elliott, who extensively researched grief, writes that the phases of grief from parting are “Shock and Disbelief,” “Check and Painful Abandonment,” and “Reorganization, Integration, and Acceptance.” Any of these three phases can be skipped, can be repeated or can be rearranged depending on the situation and the individual.

Statistics

According to John Fetto [10], a study conducted by eNation found that nearly one third of all Americans experienced a separation in the last ten years. He also found that the younger a person is, the greater the chance that he has experienced more than one decay in the last decade. It is assumed that this is due to the fact that young people go on dates more actively than older generations.

Recovery

Depending on emotional attachment, healing after disintegration can be a lengthy process with several stages, which may include: providing enough time for recovery, improving intrapersonal relationships and, finally, finding the motivation necessary to eject parting as such.

see also

• Attachment
• Broken heart
• Divorce
• Emotional baggage
• Outline of relationships