Delight of sell

Lecture



So far we have discussed only negative feelings from all the feelings that a liar has: feelings of exposure and remorse. But a lie can also cause positive emotions. A lie can be considered an achievement, which in itself is always a pleasure. A liar may experience excitement either from a call or directly in the process of deception, when success is not yet completely clear. If successful, there can be pleasure from relief, pride in what has been achieved, or a sense of self-satisfied contempt for the victim. Enthusiasm for cheating is related both to everyone at once, and to each of these feelings separately, and if the liar doesn’t really try to hide them, they can also betray the deception. An innocent example of the delight of cheating is when a child fools a trustful friend. The deceiver must hide his delight, even if his rally is more addressed to those who are watching with no less delight how they fool a naive simpleton.
Delight of cheating can also be of varying intensity. It may be completely absent; be insignificant compared with the fear of exposure; or so strong that it will be expressed in certain behavioral signs. People can admit to deception, wanting to share their enthusiasm with others. It is known that criminals talk about their crimes to friends, strangers and even the police, expecting recognition and appreciation of their abilities, thanks to which they are so cleverly deceiving other people.
But a lie, like mountaineering or a game of chess, can be enjoyable only if there is some risk. When I was a student at the University of Chicago College in the early fifties, there was a fashion to steal books from a university bookstore. It was a real initiation ceremony for beginners; usually the theft was limited to only a few books and was performed almost publicly. The remorse of conscience at the same time was very insignificant. The students believed that the university bookstore should not be a commercial enterprise, and since it continued to work for profit, it deserved such an attitude. Nobody touched nearby private bookstores. The fear of exposure was also small, since no precautions were taken in the store. For all the time of my training, only one person was caught, and it was the incredible delight of cheating that gave him. Bernard, the ordinary theft did not suit him. He decided to raise the bid to demonstrate his contempt for the store and earn the admiration of his friends. He began to steal large art albums, which are very hard to hide. After it became boring, he went even further and began to take three or four albums at once. However, this was not enough. He began to tease sellers. The prankster stopped next to the cashier, holding his prey under his arm and making no effort to hide it. He provoked employees to questions. The delight of cheating encouraged him to tempt fate more and more. And finally, the obvious behavioral signs of the delight of cheating issued it. He was caught. Nearly five hundred stolen books were found in his bedroom. Subsequently, being engaged in a very respectable business, Bernard became a millionaire.
Delight of cheating may increase for other reasons. For example, he is greatly added to the urgency of having to deceive someone who has a reputation as a person who is difficult to deceive. The presence of people anticipating the deceiver's triumph also greatly contributes to the delight of swindle. However, it is better for an insightful and understanding public not to be present, because its presence, its enjoyment of the presentation can make such a delight to the liar that it will be very difficult to hide it - the whole idea will simply fail. An experienced poker player controls any manifestation of his feelings, including the delight of cheating. If he has a strong card in his hand, he must convince everyone with his behavior that his cards are not very good, so that the other players raise their stakes and stay in the game. Even when some uninvited viewers perfectly see what he is doing, he must restrain any manifestation of his delight. And for this it is better not to meet with these unwitting witnesses eyes.
Some people are more prone to sell delights than others. And, although there has been no research on this topic yet, it has been noticed that enthusiasts of boasting are most inclined to delight in cheating.
Deceiving a person may experience delight of cheating, remorse of conscience, fear of exposure - at the same time or in turn. Take poker. When, bluffing, a player claims to have everyone discarded a card, he may have a fear of exposure, especially if the stakes are very high. If he sees that the partners are giving up one by one, he may also have the delight of cheating. But, since deception is permitted, he will have no remorse if, of course, he does not cheat. The cheater can feel all three emotions at once: delight in how he cheated the staff and the owner; fear of being caught at any moment; and, perhaps, remorse because he broke the law and did not justify the confidence placed in him.
To summarize, we can say the following: the delight of cheating increases when:
  • the victim behaves provocatively, having a reputation as a person who is difficult to deceive;
  • the lie itself is a challenge;
  • There are understanding viewers and connoisseurs of the liar's skill.
Remorse of conscience, fear of exposure, the delight of cheating can manifest itself in facial expressions, voice or plastic, even when a liar tries to hide them. If, however, they can still be hidden, then the internal struggle necessary to hide them may also give behavioral signs of deception. In the next two chapters, we will look at ways to determine deception by words, voice, body movements, and facial expressions.
 

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Psychology of lies

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